my friend was really quiet as a child. her name is Martha. she used to be the coolest person around when she was with her friends and used to be the quietest person around when she had none of her friends with her. I knew that the situation at her home was not really good. her parents were suffering through a bad marriage and would not get a separation thinking that it will be too much for their only child Martha. what they did not realize was that when parental bonding leave the family, marriage turns bad and the children in the family suffer as much as the parents. surprising as it may sound, Martha was tired of her parents having shouting matches every single night. she was tired of being woken up in the middle of the night because her parents would be too loud while being in the middle of a shouting match. she was tired of having her parents rave about each other to her and telling her the other person’s bad habits that they could not stand. thus, going through all this, when Martha told me that her parents were finally getting divorced, she actually sounded happy about it since she now no longer had to feel like the reason her parents were forcing themselves to live with a person they could not even stand.